Understanding the voice in your head

 

If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by your thoughts…
you’re not alone.

 

The mind is one of the most powerful parts of the human experience.

 

It can:

analyze 

imagine 

problem-solve 

create 

remember 

predict

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But it can also:

overthink 

worry 

replay the past 

fear the future 

create stories that feel very real

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And because the mind is always talking…
it can start to feel like it is you.

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The Voice in Your Head

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Take a moment and notice:

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There is a voice in your head that:

comments on things

reacts to situations

tells stories

forms opinions

questions, judges, and analyzes

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It may sound like:

“What if this goes wrong?”

“I shouldn’t have said that…”

“Why am I like this?”

“What do they think of me?”

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And most of the time…
we don’t question the voice.

We just believe it.

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But Let’s Look Closer

 

You already experienced something important in the first lesson.

You can observe your thoughts.

 

Which means:

The voice is speaking…
and YOU are listening.

 

So, the question becomes:

You can "hear" the voice…
but is that voice really you?

 

 

The Mind’s Role

 

The mind is not the enemy.

It’s a tool, and we often ask it to perform outside of it's role.

 

Its job is to:

keep you safe 

help you navigate the world

 make sense of your experiences

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But it was not designed to:

predict the future or outcomes

define your worth 

tell you who you are 

or write the script

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Sometimes the mind is helpful.
Sometimes it is protective.
Sometimes it is just repeating patterns it has learned.

 

We will talk more about repeating patterns in the next lesson.

 

A Different Way to Relate to Your Mind

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Now… I’m going to share something with you that may have you questioning my sanity, as if we aren't well past that. 😄

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All jokes aside, talking to yourself is truly one of the healthiest things you can do. 

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But there is an art to it... stay with me here... LOL

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Let me introduce you to Eggie, my ego. Sometimes she is my biggest cheerleader, sometimes she is my partner in crime, and sometimes she is just plain rotten. But either way, she always "cracks" me up (puns intended) 😂

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Naming that voice helped me realize something important:

That voice is not me.

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It’s something speaking within me.

So instead of getting pulled into every thought…
I simply let her give her thoughts and then I respond to her.

And our conversations can sound a little like this:

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Real-Life Examples (Featuring… Eggie 🥚)

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Eggie:
“Cool… so we’re just going to pretend like those people aren't looking at us like we're stupid?"

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Me:
“…Eggie, we’re not doing this today.”

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Eggie:
“but maybe what you said IS stupid.

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Instead of taking the bait, I pause and notice what's happening. In this case I was seeking validation from others, instead of myself. 

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And I respond and gently correct Eggie:

“Eggie, you are being ridiculous, we don’t actually know what they’re thinking, and you know we don't need external validation.”

 

Do I still feel it a little?
Sure.

Do I need to analyze and

emotionally spiral for the next 3–5 business days?
No.

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Example 2: Anxiety about the future

 

Eggie:
“What if this goes wrong?”
“What if you fail?”
“What if everything falls apart?”

 

Me:
“Wow… the dramatics. Are we writing a movie or can we keep it real here?”

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Then I ground back in:

“We don’t know any of that yet, do we? But we DO know that if we stay in a positive state, we will get a positive result. It's simple physics Eggie.”

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Eggie means well…
she just has a very active imagination.

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Why This Helps

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When you name the voice…
and begin to respond to it…

something shifts.

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You are no longer:

inside the thought 

controlled by the thought 

defined by the thought

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You are in relationship with it.

And in that relationship…

you begin to take your power back.

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(We’ll explore this more deeply in later lessons—and inside Mandy’s Treehouse which will launch soon—where you’ll learn how to work with your mind in a way that actually supports you.)

 

A Gentle Truth

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Your mind is powerful.

But it is not you.

 

You are the one who can observe it.
Talk to it.
Question it.
Respond to it.

Correct it.

 

And the more you begin to see that…

the less power it has to control how you feel.

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A Gentle Integration

 

You don’t need to silence your mind. You don’t need to fight it.

Just begin to notice it.

 

And…

maybe even talk back to it a little.

(Kindly… or with a little sass. Both are effective 😄)

 

Awareness creates space.

And in that space…

you begin to reconnect with yourself.

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When You're Ready

 

Now, to explore patterns, we have dive into the shadowy depths of the subconscious.

Bring your flashlight, it can be dark.

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 Continue to: The Subconscious